When "tough love" is self-care...


Hey beauty!

If you've been following me for a while, you know I talk a lot about self-care on this platform...

I talk about treating yourself with ultimate love and respect, speaking kindly to yourself, honoring your worth, the importance of incorporating a daily ritual into your life...the list goes on.  

But today, I want to talk about a different type of self-care. It's a form of self-care that's less glamorous and harder for us to get behind.

It's the kind of self-care that requires you to be brutally honest with yourself. The kind that requires a little bit of tough love. The kind that demands you "call yourself out on your B.S."

As much as it can be a struggle for women I see to give themselves the love they deserve, it can be an even bigger struggle for them to see their blindspots, to make the difficult, but necessary, changes in their lives, and to stop making excuses for themselves. 

Here's the truth though: Until you're willing to practice self-care in all forms, the lovey-dovey, bubble bathy, treating yourself like a Queen esque self-care won't do much for you... 

You have to be willing to:

+ Face what you've been avoiding
+ Stop lying to yourself
+ Hold yourself accountable to the things you said you'd do
+ Get out of victim mode
+ Overcome the excuses you make about your life
+ Stop creating double standards that favor you
+ Have the difficult conversations
+ Stop waiting for someone/something else to improve your life for you 

It isn't easy work and most of us have a lot of resistance to it, but it's absolutely necessary in moving your life and business forward. 

The trick is being firm, but in a loving, compassionate way. Eventually you'll see that giving yourself tough love is one of the most genuine acts of self-care.

If you're not going to, who else is? You have to be there for yourself first and foremost (and that requires doing the "uncomfortable" work, too!).

How are you going to give yourself self-care in all forms this week? 

Love you!

Xo Kristen